Separation Sex

The Question
My husband and I have been separated for about 3 months now. In that time I have been with one other man. I have given it a lot of thought and I would like to get back together with my husband. Should I tell him about the other guy? We were separated, so I'm not sure if it's something he needs to know.

She says:
That is the one good thing about separations- the separation sex. The ultimate go-ahead, get out of jail free card.

Let us look at the facts- you were separated. I mean, how do you know he did not get a little action during that time? If your husband had sex with another woman, would you want him to tell you? Or would you want him to lie about it?

It comes down to this, If your goal is to rebuild a relationship with your husband, you better not lay the foundation with lies.

He says:
I kinda have to go with Lily on this one...to an extent.

It's true, if it was during a separation then it's fair game. When it comes to the disclosure of those trysts to your newly reconciled partner, it's not voluntary. If he asks however, I do think you have an obligation to tell him.